Feeling comfortable after having sex is one of the best things in the world. It’s even better when you’re mentally relaxed. This particular feeling is a part of aftercare. In broad terms, aftercare is when partners (or an individual) mentally and physically tend to each other after having sex. Aftercare consists of doing anything intimate such as cuddling or talking. Yet, not many people are aware of other ways you can practice aftercare. Continue reading for more ideas on what to incorporate into your aftercare routine.
1. Massage each other
Massages are not only good for relieving tension, but they’re great for making you and your partner feel mentally relaxed and comfortable. Arm, leg, and scalp massages are a sure way to drive your partner crazy after a night of fun.
2. Play in each other’s hair
Nothing shows comfort than playing in your partner’s hair. Playing in your partner’s hair is a good form of aftercare because it’s playful and comforting and allows your partner to fully relax. Take things up a notch by offering to oil and massage your partner’s scalp while playing with their hair.
Reflecting on intimate moments you’ve had with your partner can be a great way to communicate your likes and dislikes about sexual performances. It doesn’t hurt to offer constructive criticism and suggest new activities to try for next time.
Who doesn’t love food after sex? Incorporate cooking with your partner in your aftercare routine to liven up the mood and replenish your body with nourishment. However, avoid cooking spicy and super greasy foods if you and your partner intend to go for more rounds.
Cleaning is seen as therapeutic so why not try to do it after sex? If you and you’re partner aren’t tired, try cleaning your space. It could be as simple as making up the bed or rearranging furniture. Having some music playing in the background or talking while cleaning is going to make the process even more fun and intimate.
6. Listen to music
Listening to music with your partner is a fun form of aftercare. It’s stress-relieving and a good time to connect with your partner. Pro tip: cook while listening to music with your partner for a more intense intimate moment.
7. Play a game
While it may seem unusual, playing games as a form of aftercare can be quite intimate. Video games are especially fun to do for aftercare because they are stress-relieving and you’ll be focused on enjoying yourself and your partner’s presence.
8. Give words of affirmation
Words of affirmation can go a long way after sex. Reassuring your partner of their greatest qualities is a sure way to keep things intimate and passionate. Next time you and your partner partake in aftercare, compliment and reassure them of their performance.
Meditating or praying is great to add to your aftercare routine because you’ll be able to refocus and de-stress. Meditating/praying with a partner is even better because you’ll both be able to clear your minds and relish in each other’s newfound energy.
Although it may seem juvenile, drawing is known to be therapeutic. Unwind with your partner by drawing anything that comes to your mind. To shake things up, challenge your partner to a drawing contest.
For the Love of Intimacy Overview
Although aftercare can apply to couples, it is not solely for them to practice. If you’re single, you should still partake in aftercare and have a routine. More importantly, remember to shower and use the bathroom after having sex to prevent the spread of bacteria. Aftercare is supposed to be a fun and stress-relieving activity. If not, reevaluate your routine and switch things up a bit.
For the Love of Intimacy is a weekly segment that shines a light on conversations dealing with love, sex, and intimacy. The purpose of this segment is to inform those looking for advice and information concerning love, intimacy, kinks, and more. This segment is meant to be nonjudgmental and inclusive.