Grief is never easy. A huge hurdle to get through is facing the holidays without them. Mother’s Day is approaching, and for some people, the ads, gift suggestions for mom, and special deals can be a painful reminder that their mom is no longer here. Whether the loss is fresh or occurred years ago, the sting of it may never go away, especially on days like Mother’s Day. Finding ways to comfort friends who have lost a mom may be hard, but it’s important for them to know you care.
The holiday can often make people who are grieving feel isolated and upset. It can be hard to watch your friends be able to share such a special day with their mom when you’re missing yours. That said, it’s tough to find the right words or the right ways to comfort friends who have lost a mom. However, it can be done.
For those who have a friend who lost their mom, here are ways that you can help them face what will undoubtedly be a difficult day for them.
1. Send your friend a simple gesture to let them know you care.
When comforting a friend who is grieving, sometimes less is more. Send them a simple gesture to let them know that you are here for them and that you care. The gesture can be as small as sending a text, letting them know that you’re here if they want to vent or if they want to sit in silence. A thoughtful gesture that seems so simple can help make them feel less alone. Another gesture can be providing your friend with the ultimate care package of some of their favorite things that will hopefully put a smile on their face. Even if it doesn’t put a smile on their face, it’s OK; it’s best that they feel supported.
2. Remind them that they don’t have to be alone.
Let your friends know that they don’t have to be alone. Even though they may decline the offer, invite them over to spend time with your family. It could help them to be surrounded by love and to know that there is a community around them. They may not respond right away, but they will know that the love is there.
3. Share fond memories of their mom.
Sharing memories amid grief can be hard but also very comforting. If you know your friend’s mom, reminiscing with them can be the perfect way to help them remember their mom. Sharing how much their mom meant to you will likely mean the world to your friend. Sometimes, nothing helps a person more than remembering the good times. The memories are a way of keeping them close to your heart. This is one of the best ways to comfort friends who have lost a mom.
4. Help them celebrate their mom.
Ask your friend if they have any special plans to celebrate their mom on Mother’s Day and if you can help them. Even if their mother is gone, they can still honor her and make the day special. Whether it’s a trip to the cemetery or a balloon release, ask your friend if you can tag along. They’ll find comfort in knowing that they have your complete support when it’s needed most.
5. Give them all the love they need.
The main thing that your friend needs during this time is love. Sometimes, all your friend needs is a hug. Finding the right words to say isn’t always necessary. Consoling them, praying with them, and just listening can mean more than you’ll ever know.
These are just a few ways to comfort friends who have lost a mom. Please remember that grief is never easy, and leading with compassion is always best. We send all of our love to those who are grieving their moms on Mother’s Day and beyond.
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